Injured woman refuses to pay $680 for a ski trip she didn't go on, resisting pressure from her boyfriend who invited someone else in her stead: 'I’m not paying for a vacation I didn’t attend'

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Jesse Kessenheimer • Writer and Editor
Nov 20, 2025 7:00 PM EST

A woman sticks her boyfriend with the bill for his vacation by refusing to pay for a ski trip she didn't attend. He sends her an itemized bill for $680 covering a cabin spot that was filled by someone else, leaving her fuming and questioning everything. This month may have started with a sprained ankle and a canceled vacation, but it looks like it will be ending with a breakup and some financial obligation education for a man who doesn't understand how group trips work. 

Skiing and snowboarding are expensive hobbies. Cabins cost an arm and a leg, lift tickets require a second mortgage, and gear will leave a hole in your wallet so big, it'll have NASA experts wondering if there's a new black hole in the galaxy. Although it's understandable to come to collect the funds after planning a ski trip with your friends, it's outlandish to even consider approaching a person who was never involved in the first place. Just because you planned a trip with your girlfriend in mind doesn't mean she's beholden to the bill after you've invited a new person to fill her place; that's just not how it works. 

However, to this guy, apparently, he'd always planned to keep his girlfriend on the financial hook for his snow weekend, even if she was never there to enjoy it. 

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  • "AITJ for refusing to pay my boyfriend back for a trip I didn’t go on?"

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  • My boyfriend "Alex" (30M) planned a weekend ski trip with me (28F) and two of his friends. He told me the cost would be around $300 for lodging, food, and lift passes. I said okay.
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  • Two weeks before the trip, I sprained my ankle badly and was put in a brace. I told Alex I couldn't ski and probably shouldn't travel, and he agreed.
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  • Fast forward: the weekend comes and goes. When he gets home, he hands me an itemized spreadsheet and says:
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  • "Your share ended up being $680. You can just transfer me when you get a chance." I stared at him like, what? I didn't go. I didn't benefit from anything.
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  • He said they "didn't want to lose the reservation" so they kept the bigger cabin instead of downgrading. But here's the kicker:
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  • His friend's girlfriend ended up going in my place. So the cabin wasn't missing a person.
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  • I told him I'm not paying for a vacation I didn't attend and he said, "But I budgeted expecting your share. You're screwing me financially."
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  • I said his decision to keep an expensive cabin and invite someone else has nothing to do with me. Now he's sulking and telling his friends | "bailed" and "stuck him with the bill." AITJ?
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  • Few Variety_3365 You don't get billed for a hotel room you never slept in, food you didn't eat, or lift passes you didn't use. He replaced your spot, the moment he did that, the cost moved to THEM, not you.
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  • OverRice2524 NTJ why isn't Friend's girlfriend paying? She's the one who used the space, they had to opportunity to downgrade. She filled the space, she took the vacation, she got to ski, she can pay.
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  • Solid-... He replaced you and someone else took your spot. She pays for that. I hope you don't live with him. If you do I'd move out. If not, I'd dump him and never speak to him again. He's being an AH and a greedy one at that. Refuse to pay and lose this guy. He's not the one.
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  • CupcakeBootylicious ⚫ No way I'd pay that. You bowed out for a legit reason, they kept the fancy cabin by choice, and another person took your spot. End of story. Him telling his friends you "bailed" is just him trying to save face for messing up the money. You're not the jerk here, he's just hoping you'll cave.
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  • LdiJ46 Let me get this straight. Your boyfriend invited you on a trip that he said would cost you $300 for everything, then when you couldn't go due to an injury, he invited someone else instead. THEN he tried to bill you $680, more than double what he originally said for a trip you didn't attend and were replaced on?
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  • cassowary32 NTJ, maybe he hit his head while skiing and is suffering some serious brain damage. That's the only thing I can think of to explain why he's billing you instead of the person who took your spot. How did it go from $300 to $680? Is he also charging you for meals you didn't eat?
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  • MisterFrancesco Tell him to get paid by his friend's girlfriend
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  • Fun_Possession3299 Oh bullshit. The friend who brought the girl needs to pony up. Not one dime.
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